Perhaps nothing has so affected me as the basic idea that confidence comes from competence. ## Reference Tyson, Jon. "The Intentional Father: A Practical Guide to Raise Sons of Courage and Character" (p. 170). > My son began to get a vision of actually living skillfully as a man because—and here’s the real breakthrough—confidence comes from competence. > > That’s one of the main challenges men face these days, at least as I see it: because men have such a low level of competence in any measurable framework, we have men who lack any sort of confidence. A lack of confidence manifests itself in . . . well, just look around at the way men behave in our culture. Angry. Fearful. Lashing out. Apathetic. Self-centered. The list goes on and on. > > Confidence comes from competence.